Eee, it’s been a long time since I’ve added to this Series.
My CPN and I talked about the following idea today. I’ve been meaning to put this together for a while.
All the other ideas / coping techniques I’ve written about so far in this Borderland series are things I’ve tried or do use currently myself. This post is a bit different because this idea is new to me and I’m going to be trying it out for the first time, so I can’t yet say how helpful I’ve found it. (Updates will follow and I’d love to hear from you if you use something like this!)
I’m going to make a “rescue box”. I’m not quite sure if that’s what I want to call it but for now, it’s what I’ve named it. Apparently some people call it a suicide box because it’s a box full of things to turn to when you’re feeling absolutely at your worst. I didn’t want to call it that because it emphasises the terrible feelings more than the good I’m trying to climb towards.
The basic idea is to make up a box filled with things that help you to cope in times of extreme distress. This works well, I’m told, if like me, you find sensory or tactile things helpful and grounding. As I think I’ve mentioned earlier in this series, in personality disorder when emotions are overwhelming, introducing other, soothing sensations can help bring the emotions down. You can also put things in the box that remind you of good times or reasons that you do keep going every day, or anything that triggers positive memories and thoughts in the hope that in the long run making more and more positive memories makes these stronger than bad memories or obsessional thoughts.
I’m new to this. I’ve been trying to think of things I could put in my box. Here are a few things I came up with:
- A special smooth pebble that I collected on the beach one good day, which I find very soothing and grounding to touch. It also reminds me of the sea. Walking along the coastline and watching the sea always assures me of the presence of creation and love far greater than ourselves.
- A small stuffed animal – yes I may be an adult (perhaps 😉 ) but I still find soft toys comforting.
- A particular book that never fails to encourage me (more on that in another post).
- Photos of my godchildren whom I love very much; seeing them always brings me joy.
- A list of people I care about whom I can pray for or do something nice for – maybe write a letter or a card. This reminds me I’m not alone and helps me focus outwards on other people rather than my own problems.
That’s what I’ve come up with so far. I’ll post some pictures as I make up the box.
I have the feeling that the hard thing is going to be remembering it is there and being able to use it when I really need to. I can have coping strategies but being able to turn to them rather than a destructive “coping mechanism” is the hardest thing.
Do you use a box like this or anything similar? How do you remember to use it in the hardest times? Does it help when you’re distressed as well as when you’re feeling okay?
5 thoughts on “Walking this Borderland #9: My rescue box”
This is a wonderful idea, I think I will give it a go. Thank you for the inspiration 🙂
Not at all. It isn’t my idea originally I just shared thoughts on it however I am happy that it’s helpful for you. Perhaps we can both talk about whether we find it useful! I’ll post some pictures over the next week or so as I put mine together (that’ll hold me to going ahead and actually doing it too!) xx
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