Tag: musicals

Walking this Borderland #13: Tangled!

(For an explanation of the intention of this series please click HERE. )

In learning to sit with different emotional states, I’ve discovered that tactile, sensory experiences are important for me. I find warmth, softness, different textures, tastes and so on soothing and a major way of soothing and coping with anxiety and distress. Creativity and surrounding myself with an environment that feels safe and contains pleasant sensory experiences is a necessary part of staying stable and well for me. 

It’s not surprising then that I find certain objects are good for aiding self-soothing. One habit I fall into when I’m anxious, upset or emotionally uncomfortable is scratching and pulling at the skin on my arms, hands and sometimes face. Often, until it starts to bleed this is an unconscious thing, though it can also be something I’m aware of but irresistibly compelled to do in response to psychotic thoughts about evil inside me or mental images of having to cut things out of me.

Meet my new toy – it’s a Tangle.


The Tangle is a bendy, twisty, small plastic form, made of lots of smaller sections connected together so it can be stretched out, bunched up, wrapped round and twisted into different shapes between your fingers. It has a smooth, pleasing texture. It’s very light and little, easily fitting in your pocket or bag. I’ve started carrying this with me and in times I’m likely to start scratching – when I’m waiting for something or when I’m nervous, for example – I hold the Tangle and fiddle with it. So far it has worked well to reduce the unconscious scratching.


I’m sure no end of other objects would also serve this purpose and I also use a special pebble and a tiny stuffed animal toy for similar purposes.

Now, on the subject of Tangled, here’s another kind of “Tangled” – one of my goddaughter’s favorite Disney songs (from the movie of that name) which I have to admit is quite uplifting, for all it may be cheesy. We all need a bit of happiness sometimes and this scene is quite magical.

Ginny xxx

“At last I’ve seen the light” from Disney’s musical “Tangled” sung by  Mandy Moore and Zachary Levi.

“In a most delightful way…”

“In a most delightful way…”

“Just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, in a most delightful way!”
(Mary Poppins)

Channel 4 airs a programme called “Gogglesprogs” which is an off-shoot of “Gogglebox”. Children are filmed watching and reacting to a selection of television programmes from the previous week.

Tonight the children were watching “Mary Poppins”. The nannies started blowing away from the Banks’ front door as Mary Poppins arrived. “That’s so unrealistic,” complained one child. Later, during the song “A spoonful of sugar”, one young boy mused “Do you ever think [Julie Andrews] was on drugs when she made this?!” and a girl worried, “A spoonful of sugar? That’s a LOT of sugar!” (Oh, do we have to have a modern health conscious version these days? Just a spoonful of low GI anti-oxidant kale juice with whatdoyoucallit berries…)

I laughed but also wondered whether we’ve lost the magic along the way somewhere!

Nevertheless, I was pleased to see that most of the children quickly had the measure of “Made in Chelsea” and how staged and false the interactions are. It worries me that they have such young children watch this kind of programme (the youngest must only be 7 or so), however saying that, they seemed eminently sensible in their judgements!

Ginny xxx 🙂